Day 20 of 90 · Environment

Notice who you spend time with

“My friend Sam walks every evening. Somehow, since we started hanging out, so do I.” — Kai

Kai, Winter Arc Day 20

Today's action · 10 min

Write down the three people you spend most time with. Next to each, note one habit of theirs you'd like to catch, and one you'd rather not.

Why it works

Christakis and Fowler followed a large social network for 32 years and found that a person's chances of becoming obese rose when a friend did. It is correlational and does not prove cause, but it fits a common finding: the people around us shape what feels normal.

Source: The Spread of Obesity in a Large Social Network over 32 Years (Christakis & Fowler, 2007)

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